Ain’t that the truth!

I understand that lesbians are worn out from living in a patriarchal world, and most of the time I am full of compassion for them. Sometimes though I flip out.

As for sexual tastes, I’m simply lucky in that my “lesbian” GF is probably bi or het–complete identity definition to follow/flourish.

Your comment here does not tally with the emails we have exchanged, or the email you just sent about this post; particularly this:
I like female bodies. I’m not into male bodies. In and of itself, I don’t think there is anything wrong with that? I’m not just attracted to a human being as an amorphous soul in the ether, their body is important to me. The fact that I like female bodies means that I’m attracted to ciswomen and pre-transition transmen. Maybe I could be attracted to a transwoman who passed really well, but as yet that hasn’t happened.

Yes, I am being insensitive. I’ve hit the point where I am so sick of being told I am a woman that my ignition point is very very low.

I never expected you to figure everything out right away. I did expect you to *think* though. I still do. I expect you to understand that there is a difference between transsexuality and performance art. I expect you to understand that my underwear is a personal item, that I don’t lend out. I expect you to not ask me questions about the transition process in front of strangers who I may not be out to.

People in complicated situations have complicated feelings. I was in a complicated situation when you came out to me as a transman. My feelings were never so simple as you’re trying to tell me. It confused me because I really did desire you as a man. I was got very hot for the prospect of you having a male body. When I said I wanted to run my tongue over your flat chest that was exactly what I meant. No more, no less. That was a surprise to me. I’m still getting my head around it.

Ryan. I’d also like to remind you that my desires and my body are my own. If I ever made you feel good about being a man, I’m glad, but the affirmation of your masculinity is *not* the fundamental purpose of my body and my feelings.

I did my best to be patient when we were together. I didn’t feel angry with you for not telling me you were a man because I figured it’s complicated and it takes time to figure out. I didn’t expect you to have figured it all out right away. You, however, expect me to have figured out all of my feelings right away. Actually I didn’t even think about how I felt about the situation at all because I was kind of preoccupied with your feelings.

A lesbian is a homosexual woman who also ascribes to a certain sexual identity. I identify as a ‘fag’ most of the time… and as ‘pansexual’. My sexual orientation is bisexual though. One cannot really be ‘pansexual’ if they are heterosexual or homosexual.

If you are a homosexual woman, you shouldn’t be dating men. If you are a heterosexual man you shouldn’t be dating men. Period. Otherwise you cross the line into bisexuality, there is nothing wrong with being bisexual… it just means that you are not homosexual (or heterosexual)!

Being a bisexual lesbian is problematic, due to the political history of the lesbian identity. However, I have no problem with bisexual dykes/fags etc.

The issue I have with this article is primarily its implication that its ok to be trans, if you are transgressive, but not if you are ’straight’.

*ramble ramble* I hope this makes a little sense to someone else too.