So, I once had a conversation with a guy who had a very large penis. He was extremely proud of this penis, because it frightened women. (This guys misogyny is so thinly veiled, I am surprised he hasn’t been lynched by a mob yet).
Anyway, we got to talking about how penises aren’t ‘all that’ and size doesn’t really matter etc etc. Of course, he was of the opinion that people just say size doesn’t matter to console themselves over their (or their boyfriends) tiny member.

I said I didn’t get this male fantasy of having a massive member. I honestly think that smaller penises are more fun. If its capable of erection it fulfills my criteria for a ‘fun time’. Big penises that just kinda hang there? POINTLESS.

I have to admit I do have penis insecurity, because, frankly, I ain’t ever going to be ‘average’ let alone ‘hung’. (I don’t plan on having phalloplasty, I think metoidioplasty is more my style, if I have bottom surgery at all… it is quite dangerous).
So anyway, I every now and then I decide that I shall never have sex with a woman ever again, cos FUCK! What if she laughs at me?
Which is silly. Cos really, none of the girls I know would ever make fun of a mans penis, unless he is an arsehole, and I don’t plan on being an arsehole.

So my paranoia is about not being *normal* where as I think that the paranoia about not being 20cm long, and able to scrub the floor with your massive dick (you know who you are, arsehole), is just plain old silly. It buys into this old fashioned form of masculinity which is nothing about being a man, and everything about hating women.

At the moment there is a massive amount of controversy in the feminist blogosphere surrounding a book by Robert Jensen, called “Getting Off: Pornography and the End of Masculinity”. I have not read the book yet, and so I cannot really pass judgment on it for itself. Much of the commentary surrounding it has been absolutely fascinating, and many of the comments threads have been as informative and interesting as the articles themselves.

I first heard of the book when Courtney at Feministing reviewed it in a Not Oprah’s Book Club post. Courtney concludes that she needs to think about and analyse her position on pornography before coming to a final decision, but that she feels that Jensen’s writing was “reeking with self hate and desperation” although he made valuable points.

Amanda Marcotte at Pandagon also reviewed the book, putting more focus on the concept of masculinity, and what ending this really means for men, rather than just on pornography. She agrees with Jensen that pornography is deeply misogynist, but she says that she thought he was a little unfair to the diverse variety of men that watch pornography.

Hugo disputes Courtney’s interpretation of Jensen’s ’self-hatred’ in a rebuttal post, and again in a the second part of a three part series of posts that he published on the book. He also disagrees with Amanda’s idea that the book is too hard on men.

It seems that both Courtney and Amanda Marcotte took a more sympathetic view of men that use pornography than does either Jensen or Hugo. I find this gender division really interesting, and in some ways disturbing, especially in light of Hugo’s first post in his series on this book, and Jensen’s own statements that are along the lines of both men and women are fooling themselves in regards to misogyny and pornography, because it is uncomfortable to think about it in such raw and honest terms.

I would really recommend reading all the posts, in particular Hugo’s. I cried after reading Hugo’s posts. I haven’t yet formulated an opinion, having not actually read the book, I don’t feel inclined to pass judgement on it, but I think that the idea’s expressed in the debate surrounding the book all have merit, and that this sort of discussion of pornography is really needed in our society.

So according to this insightful post on Craigslist, Women aren’t attracted to Men.

So I am sitting around hating on idiocy, and the patriarchy tonight. In a right foul mood essentially. I have me a block of chocolate here and I am considering whether or not a bottle of port may not supplement the chocolate nicely. Then I get to read this sort of DRIVEL. Trust me, its not sweetening my disposition one iota.

I don’t buy the bull shit.
Heterosexual women dig on men. In the immortal words of my favourite minion “They Love TEH COCK”. If they don’t like YOU, then you are probably too big of a jerk to be worth a relationship, and not hot enough to be worth a one night stand. Deal with it. Make yourself nicer. Even uglee, poor, non-successful/popular boys get laid if they are nice people.
I mean, really nice people. Not just a self-pitying, deceitful NiceGuyTM thats gonna be my ‘bestest friend’ until I come out and you realise that you’re chances of getting into my pants are ACTUALLY NON-EXISTANT, and so you BLOCK MY IM YOU MISERABLE FUCK. (Er… so only a little personal bitterness sneaking out there)

There are some women that are not physically attracted to men. Its true. They are called LESBIANS, and they aren’t going to sleep with you for status or being popular either, you idiot.

The idea that wives are just prostitutes by another name seems to be an old favourite among many of the men I have had contact with over the years. I used to read a forum for Married Men who couldn’t get their Wives to Put Out. Essentially, the majority of them were absolute MISOGYNISTIC DOUCHE BAGS who were of the opinion that since they ‘kept’ their wife financially she was meant to have sex, whenever he wanted.

It doesn’t WORK LIKE THAT. If you think it does, then NO WONDER SHE WONT SLEEP WITH YOU.

A lesbian friend of mine recently said: “Damn it, I wish there were more bloody homo’s. I haven’t been laid in ages. Maybe we should start ‘indoctrinating’ school children like the right-wing nutjobs say we want to.”

So… You may not be alone in the opinion that too many women aren’t attracted to men, but trust me… LESBIANS DON’T AGREE WITH YOU.

I’m done ranting. I think I’ll go get that port now.